Easy To Love, But Hard To Raise

Real Parents, Challenging Kids, True Stories

Kay Marner and Adrienne Ehlert Bashista, co-editors; Foreword by Dr. Edward Hallowell, paperback; 340 pages; ISBN:978-1-933084-15-2.


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About Easy To Love


If there’s anything the 32 parent-writers, including Pamela Fagan Hutchins, and 15 experts of Easy to Love but Hard to Raise want you to know, it’s this:


We’ve been there. We’ve done that. We’ve navigated the system. Some of us succeeded. Some failed. We’ve been judged by friends, teachers, family, & strangers. We’ve gotten the phone calls & the looks. We’ve done things we never thought we’d do, good & bad. We’ve been up nights, cried in our pillows, and screamed in frustration. We’ve doubted ourselves, our children, & our partners. We’ve had to educate everyone, including our children’s doctors. We are parents of children with alphabet soup diagnoses, invisible special needs, behavioral problems.

Our children are easy to love, but oh, so hard to raise.

Easy to Love but Hard to Raise is an anthology of personal essays written by parents of children with ADD, ADHD, OCD, PDD, ASDs, SPD, PBD and/or other alphabet soup diagnoses that takes the already difficult job of parenting and adds to the challenge.

These essays focus on honest feelings, lessons learned, epiphanies, commonplace and extraordinary experiences. They are written by parents of toddlers, young children, teens, and adult children; those who are in the parenting trenches now, and those looking back on their parenting experiences. Topics include : how children came to be diagnosed, the experience of dealing with problem behaviors in various contexts and settings, experiences with/feelings about treatment (therapies, medications, alternative treatments), school (and other advocacy) experiences, children’s social interactions/friends, and the effect of parenting a difficult child on a parent’s emotional and physical health, marriage, and other relationships.

If the topic of this book speaks to you, please read more from our contributors on the blog, Easy to Love but Hard to Raise or join the discussion on the Facebook page.


Pamela Fagan Hutchins writes mysterious women’s fiction. She also writes non-fiction focusing on special needs parenting, blended families, relationships, indie publishing, and athletics. She is an employment attorney, human resources expert, and business owner living in Texas with her husband and hodgepodge of kids and animals.