How to Screw Up Your Marriage

Do-Over Tips for First Time Failures

fka Love Gone Viral: Couples Who Make You Wanna Puke, And How To Be Part Of One

2nd Place, 2012 Houston Writers Guild Narrative Nonfiction Manuscript Contest


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About How to Screw Up Your Marriage

How to Screw Up Your Marriage: Do-Over Tips for First Time Failures: How to be part of a couple who makes people want to puke, even if you’ve failed before. 

Let’s face it. People keep getting married. Yet over 40% of first marriages end in divorce and up to 67% of second do, too, with statistics becoming predictably more dismal as the number of trips to the altar rack up. It seems like,  for many of us, the longing to be half of a couple so in love they make other people want to puke is too strong to ignore.


The problem is we’ve all grown up to expect that fairy tale endings happen by accident, that if we wish upon a star, or let down our golden hair, then, blammo, we’ll get our happily ever after. In other words, we’re lazy and feel entitled to have the one thing we want most in the world – the one thing we should work hardest to create and nurture – without doing squat to make our dreams reality. We fall in love, we marry, we pout, we nag, we sulk, and we sabotage.


How to Screw Up Your Marriage interrupts the pity party with a no-nonsense formula for couplehood success, written by a human relations expert who is herself in a wonderfully nauseating marriage with a passel of his and hers kids.

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Table of Contents

Sample Chapters


Pamela Fagan Hutchins is an employment attorney and workplace investigator by day who writes award-winning and best-selling women’s fiction mysteries (Saving Grace, Leaving Annalise, and others) and humorous nonfiction (How to Screw Up Your Kids, What Kind of Loser Indie Publishes?, and others) by night. She is passionate about great writing and smart authorpreneurship. She also leaps medium-tall buildings in a single bound, if she gets a good running start.

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  1. Rene Riedlinger says:

    An easy tear filled (both hysterical and emotional) read that honestly addresses the issues and daily problems we all face in a relationship. This book challenged and encouraged me to make my relationship the best it can be! or Laughed of loud at the torn pages and book cover of the Idiot’s Guide To Intimacy! Luckily you taped them back together — symbolizing still working at and fixing the relationship! Funny, REAL-life stuff!

  2. Darryl Braley says:

    Pamela, Thank you for writing a book for those of us that have found our “big love” after a little time spent having faith it existed. The thoughts and advice you share spotlight the effort it takes to enjoy a great love while at the same time giving solid advice for the times when it seems love is not enough (Chapter 41). Thanks again for re-affirming my belief that true love not only exists, it can be maintained. Rene speaks very highly of you and I look forward to the opportunity of meeting both you and Eric.

  3. I wasn’t exactly sure what to expect when I read the title, but I quickly fell in love with this book. It’s filled with helpful tips, cute ideas, sweet stories, and hilarious stories. I especially love all the examples of iPhone auto-correct trying to screw things up- I laughed out loud when I read them! The author really engages the reader (even includes some tips for you to try!) and has some great things to say. If you’r in a relationship, this book will really help you learn to appreciate your partner and make sure you stay together as long as possible. It’ll also have you both holding your sides and laughing your hearts out sometimes :)

  4. This is a great book about what happens after the honeymoon ends. Marriage is one of the most defining things we humans do. Yet, too often, we spend less time and energy in this endeavor than we do on our occupation or our hobbies. This book makes you think about how with just a little extra thought and effort we can have that lasting relationship we envisioned at the start of marriage.

  5. Loved this book. It was so entertaining to read about two people who are finding ways to make sure they don’t make the same mistakes the second time around. Two high achievers who are bound and determined to stick to a plan and keep their love strong.

  6. Coming from a family mixed family, so I could relate to a whole lot of this! I would really recomnd this to everyone!

  7. Getting married is easy, staying that way is not. If you love your spouse, if you are about to get married. If you want to get some great ideas through real and very very funny stories. You need this book. The emotion you get from reading it is. This is REAL (along with a little bit of surprise with how much the author was willing to share of her (and her husbands) warts.

  8. I loved the story about the cardinal, Pamela has a way of using stories to illustrate her points in a clear and concise manner

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